Dang,
I was sitting here - pondering a topic .... & it hit me: is anyone reading my blog? Or am I in this alone...? Which led me to thoughts of lonlieness.
I remember ever since being a toddler I've always been fine in my own company. I never hanged with many friends at the same time. I usually had one good friend and enjoyed being just the two of us. I would often prefer reading a book to joining groups of other kids. I've always sort of craved my quiet time and I still thrive in aloneness.
A couple of years ago when attending the Film Festival in Cannes I came to speak with a Danish male actor. When he asked me about my childhood, I was honest and did not think it to be a big deal that my first six years on earth my best friend - who I loved more than anything - was King, my black Labrador. 🐶
To my surprise this information provoked an intense reaction from my Danish colleague:
- "Oh no, POOOOR, POOOOR Uuuuuuh!"
He felt really bad for me. I had to calm him a good five minutes before I could convey I truly had a great childhood together with my dog friend. That I think that to be the very foundation to why I still enjoy the company of animals so much.
I remember me and King talking. Vividly too. We were always together. I used to sleep on his belly under the living room table and he would not move until I woke up. I always found it interesting that nobody else seemed to hear what he was saying. But it was like we had a secret language, which to me felt extremely exciting.
- "Please, I appreciate your concern but I can assure you there is no need feeling sorry for me."
😀 This memory makes me laugh out loud today.
The Truth is I never felt lonely being on my own. There is a tremendous difference between loneliness and aloneness.
"When you are alone you are not alone, you are simply lonely. When you are lonely you are thinking of the other, you are missing the other.
Loneliness is a negative state. You are feeling that it would have been better if the other was there - your friend, your wife, your mother, your beloved, your husband. It would have been good if the other was there, but the other is not.
Loneliness is absence of the other. Aloneness is the presence of oneself. Aloneness is very positive. It is a presence, overflowing presence. You are so full of presence that you can fill the whole universe with your presence and there is no need for anybody."
- OSHO
We are all in this together. Interconnected.
/M + 👼 👼 🐶 👼
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